Workaholic.. Wow, doesn’t that word have some sting in its tail! The word has such connotations associated with it. I mean the simple “aholic” added on the end conjures up thoughts of addictions such as alcohol and drugs.
Recovering implies that this is some nasty sickness that could kill you and is always lurking in the background. That you can fall off the wagon so to speak at any time.
But workaholic’s don’t fall into that camp, right..? Or do they..?
The fact is that being a workaholic can lead to heart attacks, strokes, chronic illnesses, relationship breakdowns. Hmm notice the link here. However, unlike our nasty friends the alcohol and the drug dependent, it is often applauded, expected and even rewarded in the workplace. Some wear it like a badge of honour, that is until it starts to take its toll.
It will be subtle at first, so much so that you won’t even notice the little cracks started to show. It may be your exercise routine drops off or you start reaching for those comfort foods or you are visiting your local doctor so often you could earn frequent flyer rewards.
Then it builds… The arguments with your spouse about being late (again!) or missing important kids events or all of a sudden you’ve gained four kilos and you have bags under your eyes. Then the kicker, you start beating yourself up for being unable to handle everything. I mean its been ok in the past, why not now? And so it goes on…
Sound familiar at all? Sound like anyone you know or is this a depiction of your life at the moment? We all know someone who falls into this category. Sooner or later despite our beliefs that “we’re different to everyone else, we’re tough and can handle it” the wheels come off and drastic action is necessary. Its crisis point… and something has got to change..
Drastic action to either recover ones health, relationship or self esteem. The guilt and anger at self can be enormous. And its a long road back..
When you make it back again, you swear you’ll never let that happen again.
The scary thing is the number of times people go there and swear I’ll never do it again, I know better now and I’m on top of things.. Unfortunately the potential to “re-offend” is quite high, the complete shock and disbelief that you’ve let it happen again can be quite debilitating.
The reality is you’re stuck in survival mode…Unless you actively accept that you are triggered to work this way and begin to unravel the habits and beliefs that lead to this in the first place, you’re destined to continue to repeat the cycle…